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The reasons we should have more than one child


I know a lot of couples preferred to only have one child due to various reasons from financial constraints to lack of time or even lack of love (?). Whatever it is, I feel that we should all have more than one child. It is either have two children or not at all. Why have one and stop there? My reasons for having more than one child are:

1. You already lost your figure and have parts of your body riddled with stretch marks when you have the first kid, having another one won’t make much difference.

2. Both of you already lost your privacy and ‘honeymoon period’ of only two of you at home where you are able to get on hot and heavy wherever and whenever now that you have a small impressionable child running around, so having another one won’t make you lose more privacy.

3. You have already adapted to sleeping less than 6 hours a day with the first child and if you don’t have another one, you may shock your system if you suddenly sleep more.

4. All that is yours and all your money already belonged to your child, so why not split it up to benefit two or three instead of only one?

5. You already learned to nag when trying to get the firstborn to do something, so no point wasting the newly-acquired skill when you can use it on the second or third or fourth child.

6. You have also acquired new negotiation skills to negotiate your way outta buying the kid new toys each time you go shopping so you should keep this useful skills sharp by having more children to negotiate with.

7. Your patience level has increased that you are not bothered by broken things and spilt food so you should keep the level high by having more little ‘terrors’ to test your patience. Who knows, you may become a saint!

8. You kid will never ever bother you to ‘play with me please’ since they will be busy fighting and shouting at each other.

9. You won’t end up with a selfish prat who only thinks about himself, doesn’t share and thinks the world revolves around him because he will have to fight for stuffs with his siblings, fight for attention from his parents and learn to share and be considerate to others in the same home. (Not that I am saying all single child are spoilt. Only some are if the parents spoil them.)

10. Your kid won’t end up talking to himself and your house will never be a silent, lonely place ever again as it will be filled with screams, shouts, laughter and love.

Finally, if you are still undecided, you can always choose not to have children if you truly, truly are scared of these reasons for not having children.

The effects of staying home for too long…

Although my two-month maternity leave is up and I am already back at work, I am still suffering the after-effects of having to stay home with the kids at home for two whole months.

I tend to..

1. Respond to everyone with ‘Why?’ as a direct influence from my pre-schooler who will ask why to every statement, every question, all the time…example:

Boss: Can you please do this?

Me: Why?

Boss: Because it needs to be done.

Me: Why?

Boss: Because it is important

Me: Why?

Boss:???…

2. Forget to comb my hair before leaving the house – heck, who combs their hair if they are gonna stay home the whole day?

3. Surf the net aimlessly when I am supposed to be busy working – uh-huh. Really. I used to be SO hardworking. NOT.

4. Wait for the baby to wake up to feed her – errr….now, it’s waiting for time to express milk to store for the baby.

5. Want to go out, go anywhere,  shopping or whatever and do not feel like staying home – it’s the wanderlust in me speaking loud and clear. I can NEVER be confined at home for long. I guess I have to make up for the two months of ‘jail’.

6. Plan lunch, dinner, dessert…then realised I don’t even have time to prepare dinner nowadays courtesy of the infamous rush hour jams every where.  Imagine, it takes me 45 minutes to reach the nursery to pick up preschooler and another 45 minutes to and fro the babysitter’s house to pick up baby. By them time we reach home, it’s too late to cook so we usually buy back.

7. Search for sinfully wonderful cookie / cake recipes to bake and post up in my recipe site and then realised that I don’t have time to bake!

8. Have a hard-to-shake addiction to Hong Kong drama series – dammit, I must stop watching those drama series. It’s NOT healthy.

9. Be very irritable due to lack of sleep and extreme boredome – I am no longer as bored but still lack of sleep so yep, I am still very irritable.

10. Waiting for hubby to come home from work like a good li’l wife – NOT. More like he’s waiting for me to get back from battling the traffic jams. And he’s not the one picking up the kids because I have the baby car – as in the car with the baby seat.