I wanted to post up the birth stories of both my children but somehow, I just can’t seem to finish even the first one about my son’s journey into this world. Worst of all the post is coming up to 1,000 words. *gasp* As if anyone at all is interested in it.
Die lar. I am beginning to sound like the aunties / proud mothers you sometimes meet who will go on and on and on about their children and how they delivered their babies complete with the gory details of dilation and water breaking and pushing and swearing and sweating and excruciating pain. Oh, trust me. No birth story is complete without all the gory bloody details of pain, blood and more pain. It is enough to put any unwed, virginal woman off s ex. Forever.
And it reminds me of how watching a video of a live natural birth of a baby can actually traumatise some girls to the point of them vowing to never, ever have children. Or off men forever. Really. It’s a true story. And I don’t blame them. Imagine watching a watermelon being squeezed out of a straw. It is traumatising enough to turn one off the cause of such scary, excruciating pain. Men. Or s ex. Or both. Never mind that women all over the world has been doing this since the beginning of time. Never mind that nowadays, women seldom die of childbirth.
Which brings to mind the need for proper s ex education in schools. Why is it such a taboo subject? Why is it so difficult to teach our children about s ex and how to respect the opposite sex? Why is it so difficult to teach our children about respect for their own bodies, about prevention of STDs, about HIV, about protection of self and about relationships?
I personally feel that the cause of all these social problems such as teen pregnancies, rape and worst of all, the dumping of unwanted babies are due to a lack of education. Teaching our children all about the birds and the bees, and I don’t mean only about s ex but to encompass every aspects of a healthy man-woman relationship, will not encourage prosmiscuity.
In fact, it will probably cut down on teen s ex and unwanted pregnancies and also teach teenage boys to respect women. By s ex education, I am referring to an overall approach that will cover all the aspects about s ex, sexuality, about boy-girl relationships, about love and about respect for each other. Besides, isn’t it better to tell teens about s ex complete with the right information and about relationships and respect rather than to try to keep them in the dark and end up, they will learn half-truths from friends or worse, learn from p0rn flicks!
S ex (by the way, I have to add the spacing there because I don’t want to get banned by Google) education is all about:
1. The many aspects of relationships and what is okay or not okay in a relationship because like it or not, teenagers with their raging hormones, WILL have a boyfriend / girlfriend either with or without their parents’ knowledge.
2. Respect for your partner and respect for yourself so that you do not ‘go all the way’ just because you were pressed into it or pressured into it.
3. Protection in the form of condoms is important as it could prevent STDs and HIV. Like it or not, teenagers will be s exually active with or without education so why not arm them with the proper knowledge of protecting themselves?
4. The emotions and feelings in a relationships and how to deal with it without bowing to the pressure of having s ex.
Of course, for me, I think the best way to stop teenage girls from doing it is to show them a really graphic, scary and bloody video recording of a live natural birth. The bloodier the better. And to show it with the warning that if they don’t abstain, that is what they will have to go through. Bwahahahahahah…
As for teenage boys, just show them a real live AIDS patient and tell them that if they don’t abstain, this is what may happen to them. Well, it’s the truth. In a way.
The scare tactics probably don’t work on the teens of today anymore. So, it is really time that they do it the hard way, education, education and more education. Drill it into their brains. There’s no other way.
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