Foong Speaks Her Mind

When I read this exclusive piece of news in Malaysiakini, I was not in the least surprised by it. I mean, what is new? Since we already have government-sanctioned racism, might as well throw in sexism, right?

Oh wait. I forgot. The whole world is a sexist place. Not because most men are against women or that most women are against men. It is the way we are made.

We are infinitely different and as is proven when it comes to racial issues (due to differences), there are bound to be disagreements. And it is a fact that we do live in a men’s world.

If you look around you, anywhere in the world, you’d notice. Men rule the world. Men makes the majority of the lawmakers. Since it is a men’s world, naturally, laws side them. Naturally, everything is tilted their way and it is always the women who are considered less significant and unimportant.

Even in this modern society, anywhere you go, you’d see sexism everywhere.

Why else are so many countless women abused by the ones who were supposed to protect them?

Why else are there so many rape and murder cases and yet, women are blamed for ‘not being careful’ or worse ‘because of her dressing’ when the perpetrator should be the one blamed?

Why else do you think that in certain companies, women are paid less compared to men and women gets less chance of promotions even when they outperform the men in the company?

Why else do you think that there is still this ‘male supremacy’ syndrome everywhere?

Though I do admit that we are different and different strengths and weaknesses, but is it even right for men to think less of women just because we are not made like them? In the former UM VC’s words:

“Just because we are women and we don’t have that thing between the legs so we are not good,” she told Malaysiakini in an one-hour interview today held at her new office at UM.

Sigh. When will we ever arrive at a point where equality is not just a distant dream despite it being spouted day in day out everywhere? When will we ever arrive at a point where women are given the same respect as men? When will we ever arrive at a point where women’s role in this world is recognised to be equally important as the men’s role?

When?

When?

When?

And I shall end this post with this quote to prove my point about women being treated as less important and less competent in a men’s world:

Explaining her allegation of gender bias, Rafiah said she recently learnt that the women VCs were only given a two-year contract while male VCs were given a three-year contract.

- Malaysiakini

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To the women (if you are a man, you can also read this and perhaps pass on the good news to your female friends or err…use these tips yourself if you are into this kind of stuff):

Do you wish you are a sexy bombshell able to stop a man in his tracks with a flutter of your eyelashes?

Do you wish you could command more attention than Angelina Jolie when you walk into a room?

Do you wish to rid yourself of the plain Jane look and be glamourous, gorgeous and so attractive that men fall over themselves trying to get to you?

Well, fear not.

Finally there is hope for all women (and men who are into stuff like this) who are lacking in self esteem and in the ’sizzling sexy’ factor and no, it does not even involve thousands of $$ to go under the knife for such a transformation…

You only need two things:

The first one is….

Lipstick!

Preferably blood red but if it clashes with your skin tone, choose a more suitable colour for your skin. If you don’t know how, you can go here, here and here for more lipstick choosing tips.

The second thing you will need is:

High heels…

Stilettoes are preferable since these are known to give any woman a ‘lift’ and killer sex kitten appeal. Don’t know what type of high heels to buy? No problem, you can read this article for more insight into choosing the perfect high heels to give you immediate sexiness.

I am sure by now you must be wondering…

‘WTF, Foong must have lost her mind! Lipstick and high heels do not make any woman (or man) sexy and gorgeous and desirable’

Na-ah, I have not lost my mind…I am sure it is still intact and lurking somewhere.

However, some people seem to think that lipstick and high heels are the root of all evil sexual crimes and immorality since these two mundane, fashionable objects are known to transform plain Janes into gorgeous sexy bombshells within the space of minutes.

Why else issue a circular to female workers telling them not to wear lipstick and high heels to work since these attract immoral activities such as extra-marital affairs and rape?

Is it any wonder that female groups are up in arms against those idiots?

Fortunately, it was only directed at Muslims and non-Muslims can just stand aside and wonder what those idiots (the council) are thinking!

I have ranted against male chauvinistic pigs like this here and here before so I will not go into the whole ‘those idiots are a bunch of sexist, chauvinistic pigs..’ rant again.

They are just not worth my blog space to warrant a lengthy rant. I am just so sick and tired of these idiots.

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Divorce rates are on the rise. It is unavoidable. It is a known fact. Many married couples are making divorce lawyers richer while families are being torn apart. I came from a broken home myself, so I know the true effects of this on the children who are the innocent victims of such breakups.

In recent times, I also hear out rantings by friends and even colleagues on their marriage. Some are just mere rantings while others run on more insidious meanings which leads to deep unhappiness and a wish to get out of the unhappy marriage. A few have already taken steps to dissolve the marriage.

So, here are some tips on how not to ruin your marriage if you plan to ‘live happily ever after’ with your other half:

1. Flirt all you want with others but DO NOT do more than that…meaning, no saying ‘i love u’ to those you flirt with, no jumping into bed with those you flirt with and definitely no having sex with people your flirt with.

2. Listen to your partner with your heart, not your cynical brain. Sometimes, your partner may annoy you or nag at you or simply say the stupidest thing ever, still, the meaning behind the words are somehow important, at least to your partner. Just listen to your partner, it does not cost you a darn cent to do this.

3. Give and take when it comes to disagreements - trust me, it is practically pointless to be arguing and fighting over who left the toothpaste cover open or whose turn it is to take out the garbage or who is better at sex. Heck, nobody is right or wrong in these situations so do agree to disagree sometimes. You won’t die if you give in.

4. Forget about pride - if you did something wrong, admit it and apologise.

5. Be understanding - your partner is only human with ups and downs and good / bad moods. So, don’t expect a cheerful, no complaints partner 24/7. You want that, go get a robot.

6. Know that your partner may not 100% like your parents / relatives / siblings - deal with this fact of life. You may not like your partner’s side of the family and so, it is also vice versa. Accept this instead of forcing your partner to like your side of your family.

7. Respect is essential - any relationship is worthless without mutual respect for each other.

8. Don’t play the blame game - in a marriage, it is best not to blame your partner for anything / everything that goes wrong in your life. Your partner is not a scape goat but someone you should be cherishing for life…

9. Do not compare - how many times you have loudly compared your partner with your neighbour’s partner or your friend’s partner or your relative’s partner? Comparing is another pointless exercise because your partner is an individual and you married your partner for that individualism, not because he/she is like your neighbour’s partner, etc..

10. In disagreements / quarrels - try to control your temper and your words. Saying hurtful things will not help matters and it is always better to calm down and talk things through coolly like two mature adults.

And finally, if all else fails, employ this very foolproof, easy, simple, totally free ‘happily ever after’ method right from the start:

Don’t get married!

wahkahkahkahkah…..

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